Armisen and Brownstein text each other every night before bed. Brownstein says of their friendship, “Sometimes I think it’s the most successful love affair either of us will ever have.” Both claim that it wouldn’t work if they were romantically involved. “It would be colder, because we’ve both treated our romantic relationships in a cold way,” Armisen says. “Carrie and I are more romantic than any other romantic relationship I’ve ever had—that sense of anticipation about seeing the other person, the secret bond. But things don’t become obligatory. I’m not thinking, I’m doing this because you’re my girlfriend; I’m thinking, I love Carrie.” (x)

Two of the main characters on “Portlandia” are named Fred and Carrie; they have an ambiguous joined-at-the-hip relationship. The show’s production designer, Tyler B. Robinson, has proposed that, at some point, they be shown waking up in the same room, in twin beds, with their names above them. “It’d be very Bert and Ernie,” Brownstein said, adding that if, in real life, “Fred said to me, ‘I’m going to move into your house, and sleep in the same room, in twin beds,’ I’d be, like, ‘Sure!’ ”

Read more: http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2012/01/02/120102fa_fact_talbot#ixzz2HjclCGF3

(Source: heytinafey)

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One of my goals in thinking about redefining the way we view relationships is to try to treat the people I date more like I treat my friends—try to be respectful and thoughtful and hav[e] boundaries and reasonable expectations—and to try to treat my friends more like my dates—to give them special attention, honor my commitments to them, be consistent, and invest deeply in our futures together.
For Lovers and Fighters by Dean Spade  
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“

If you stay we can
figure out how long it takes.

The way you kiss me around
the wrists. Tap messages on my back. Don’t say

a word. Write to me only in French. Turn
the thermostat down to sixty and pad

to the kitchen in socks, wrapped up
in blankets like secrets. Boil a pot of water. Two

cups will do. Come back with tea. Steam will
fog between us as we wait under quilts.

Brett Elizabeth Jenkins, Waiting For Rain (via atomiclanterns)
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“
there is always somebody in the other room
who wonders what you are doing
there without them.
Charles Bukowski   
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jesstify:

habitualsomethings:

Relevant. Because friends first, lovers second.

//cute

I waited, I flirted, I waited….and eventually I got him :) Best decision of my life, all that waiting

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“

When you were sleeping on the sofa
I put my ear to your ear and listened
to the echo of your dreams.

That is the ocean I want to dive in,
merge with the bright fish,
plankton and pirate ships.

I walk up to people on the street that kind of look like you
and ask them the questions I would ask you.

Can we sit on a rooftop and watch stars dissolve into smoke
rising from a chimney?
Can I swing like Tarzan in the jungle of your breathing?

I don’t wish I was in your arms,
I just wish I was peddling a bicycle
toward your arms.

Jeffrey McDaniel, “The Secret” (via larmoyante)

(Source: larmoyante)

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“
…because two bodies, naked and entwined,
leap over time, they are invulnerable,
nothing can touch them, they return to the source.
There is no you, no I, no tomorrow,
no yesterday, no names, the truth of two
in a single body, a single soul,
oh total being…
Octavio Paz 

(Source: fernsandmoss)

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On Love

theangrytherapist:

An anonymous follower emailed me this this morning.  Well, anonymous to you.  I think she makes some great points so wanted to share to create a dialogue.  To who wrote this, thank you for sharing.  Favorite line.  ”Until it’s right, it’s wrong”.  Good words.

- Angry

I wanted to share this because I think it’s something a lot of dating books and people do not necessarily say. The love of your life is not going to come at a set age, or time. You can say you want to be married by 28 or 30 or whatever, but if you don’t meet the right person you are either going to find yourself single or worse, trying to marry somebody that might not be right. Divorce rates sky rocket in our country not because love is broken, or people are bad. It has nothing to do with men wanting to sow their oats, or women wanting to trade up, or any of the other stereotypes. It’s because everybody’s trying to get it for the sake of having it or doing it because they feel they are supposed to along some kind of timeline, to make someone they’re with happy, etc. It is not the kind of thing you want to rush. If you’re not finding ‘the one’ or you’re finding plenty of people to date or short term relationships, it is likely that you need to grow somewhere to get and create the relationship you want. It does happen right away for some people, and lasts forever. For most of us, it’s a series of crash tests intended to bring us a little closer to who we need to be in order to get the relationship we want. Note that says who we need to be — it has nothing to do with who the other person is. At least, not right out of the gate. It also isn’t about a 20 point check list of what someone is about — but everything about how you recognize love, how you need to be shown love, and whether or not you can recognize the unique way someone gives and receives it, and ultimately if either you can be satisfied with that or not. When someone loves you, and when it is right, there is no things you need to say or do. Having witty answers about who you are, trying to be interesting on purpose, etc is not going to land you the person who will love you for who you are. If you’re boring, so what. There is a person for you out there. Be yourself. Because any effort to say or do the right things is an act, and acts are very hard to keep up. Avoid it. Be yourself and have the confidence and trust that someone on the other side of the equation is going to love you just as you are. 

When you love someone, you will know. It is not a feeling. At all. It can bring some great feelings. But it’s an act. It’s an act you want to give that person no matter what. It’s an act that makes you accept and work around their flaws, it’s an act that makes you be considerate of them, remembering the little things that make him or her happy. We get way too caught up in the feeling of love, and that is a big reason why so many people think they ‘love’ someone when they really do not. When it is love, and it is mutual and right between the two people, it is like nothing you have or will ever experience in your life. It is the same kind of love you have for a family member, or a friend, only richer and more intimate. It is a cousin to the love you might have for your child. It’s a love that makes that person beautiful to you no matter what they are in, how they are, what is going on. You will love that person whether they are well rounded and cultured and traveled, you will love them and want to see everything about them, experience them to the fullest extent. You will walk to the ends for this person. And vice versa. 

So put away the things you think you need to be. It isn’t about whether or not you order a sandwich or a salad. Ask yourself if you’ve got issues within yourself preventing the love that you want — that is what you need to work on, not making sure you did not answer his or her text quickly so you don’t seem  to eager, or any of that other nonsense advice. And when somebody loves you, you will know. You’ll know because it will be effortless. Not just on the first date or the second date or the 100th, but for years and years. If you find yourself constantly angry, constantly citing what is wrong with someone you are with, ask yourself if you are just a chronic complainer, or if this person is truly what you want.

As a good friend said once, until it’s right, it’s wrong. Every time you meet someone, don’t use the filter to figure out how they make you feel because feelings fail. Ask your gut instinct: Is this person someone I can date, or is this somebody who I could have a relationship with? And take your time. Get to know him or her. It’s a marathon not a sprint. It’s an act not a feeling. It’s natural and nothing you are or aren’t is going to make it happen or not, with exception to your needing to heal somewhere that’s preventing love from happening in your life. That’s love.

- An anonymous follower 

Can’t have said it better myself

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beautflstranger: I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. ~ When Harry Met Sally Best movie ever

beautflstranger:

I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

~ When Harry Met Sally

Best movie ever

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